Five Signs Love Still childish

Every relationship must be confronted with a choice, towards a more serious relationship or just have fun. Some couples just need a short time to achieve the commitments, while others need time for years.

For couples who feel comfortable with each other, said the commitment will soon appear. But often, lovers did not also show its seriousness. You do not have to waste precious time with someone who is not ready.

If you want a more stable relationship than a relationship 'but intimate friend' or a date, time to assess the lover. Could be, he's still want to have fun and tend to be childish.

Here are some signs of male juvenile, as quoted from Yourtango:

1. No vision
In adulthood, it tends not know what he wants. For example, he enrolled but kept changing because it was unsuitable, so spend a long time.

This means, he is not confident in his desire. A man who is not sure of himself and what his purpose is not ready to commit long term.

2. He partied like ABG
Partying does not matter, as long as he also knows to control themselves while saving money. But in fact, his behavior reminds you of a teenager spending money just for the novelty.

Men who want to feel young still are people who tend to avoid becoming an adult. Behavior will cause problems when you are together.

3. He chose the unemployed
Finding a job is hard, but he never tried hard to get a job. He enjoys doing and rely on the help of parents to meet their needs.

If the lover has a healthy body, but chose unemployed, it shows laziness. If you remain married, be prepared to enter a full household quarrels.

4. Still dependent on parents
There is time, a grown man to live independently. However, he is tied with parents and is not ready to live alone. If he can not be independent for himself, of course it is difficult to do much for his partner later.

5. Too obsessed with idol
Admire and have the idol of a natural thing as long as not excessive. If the lover is too obsessed with an artist, to affect his life suggests he is a dreamer and has its own world.

He may be a romantic, but it will be difficult to adapt to the reality in the long run.

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Choose Love or Wealth?

What is your main consideration before deciding to marry the couple? Love or treasure? A recent survey Yourtango and ForbesWoman, 75 percent of women will not marry a jobless. As many as 65 percent of women also put off making a greater commitment if they are unemployed.

"Unemployment became an increasingly complex problem, especially for women who think about the financial and emotional stability of their prospective spouses," said Andrea Miller, founder and CEO of Yourtango.

A work can create tension in the relationship, and potentially damage the harmonious relationship. No wonder that before deciding to commit for life, some women want to ensure 'safe' with the ability of the couple make ends meet.

However, 91 percent of single women who participated the survey brave step into the level of marriage just because of love. This finding is quite ironic. How can women prefer love to get married, while on the other hand they will not marry unemployment.

"It is ironic that the woman was more heavily to choose love rather than money, but will not get married if they or peminangnya potentially unemployed," said Meghan Casserly, a spokesman for ForbesWoman.

Unemployment of a senior executive positions and mother of two children Oran claimed to have lost his job and affect the lives of her marriage. "I have a wonderful husband, but this incident destroy it. My husband and I fight a lot like I dropped everything," he said.

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How to Calm Yourself After Fight

Arguing with your partner is normal in relationships. Occasional differences of opinion may be unavoidable. However, how to stay calm when the pair threw anger and emotion?

The first thing you need to do is find a break to compose himself. Because each person has a different way to handle the stress, upsetting or distressing situations.

There are several ways you can do in order not to hurt your partner emotionally or make you regret it later. The following is quoted from Yourtango including:

1.Tarik deep breath through your nose and try to hold for a while before removing it through the mouth slowly.

2. Close your eyes and imagine a place that you like most and makes you feel peaceful like the mountains or the beach.

3. Listen to soothing music

4. Enjoy the gurgling sound of water or fountain

5. Use aromategerapi, both with scented candles or essential oils

6. Play with your dog or cat

7. Warm water bath

8. Drinking a cup of hot tea

9. Silent and thoughtful for a moment

10. Chatting with friends

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Bad Effects Technology For Relationships

Technology can make us in touch with the outside world. But if excessive, is also likely to isolate us from the pair and put the relationship on the issue.

A recent study found, a wife who filed for divorce today is often called the husband's annoying behavior as a reason for divorce. As many as 15 percent feel their spouse more interested in games and the Internet than they are. Meanwhile, Facebook is used as one of five reasons for divorce.

Meanwhile, a survey conducted by online sites to find Divorce, the word 'phone' also led to one of eight divorce. No wonder, because the survey calls, someone using 80 minutes a day to make a short message, social networks and the Internet.

"I call it 'together but alone,'" says Douglas Weiss therapist relationship as published in the Daily Mail.

Currently, he said, mobile phones have become an important part in one's life. Hours and hours of time at home is spent at the computer and television. People are now also more in touch with friends on Facebook than couples.

"Technology disrupt the relationship and allows us to avoid one another. This leads to the destruction of intimacy."

Psychotherapist and relationship expert Paula Hall, from a nonprofit counseling agency Relate, said the technology should not be the cause of broken relationships. Even seemingly minor habits such as checking email and messages have a corrosive effect on relationships.

"People feel the need to connect with the outside world at any time can affect the quality time we spend with a partner," said Paula.

If there is a continuous, addicted to technology will make the couple may feel they are not a priority. In fact, research has shown that digital devices can be very addictive to make people wake up several times at night to check emails and text messages.

In a trial involving 360 people conducted at the University of Northampton, 30 percent of volunteers who are addicted to technology will have an impact on work or relationships.

Another study, at Tel Aviv University, concluded that Internet addiction is considered equivalent to the disturbance caused by gambling, sex addiction and kleptomania. Users who are addicted to technology become irritable when away from technology.

Relationship expert added, the solution, the couple should openly discuss these issues so as not to cause depression in one of the parties. If needed, couples can have marriage counseling with the experts.

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Hugs Want to Return to Former Lover

For some people, returning close to the former lover is considered a thing in vain. That's because the assumption is only repeating the actual connection has failed.

If you're currently thinking of going back into the arms of ex-lovers, do not close the possibility of a relationship can actually be better.

There are three things which, according to Bethany Marshall, a relationship therapist and author of 'Deal Breakers', should be done so that 'relations between the two' no longer end up in separation.

Slow
If you and he are old enough not to make contact and then meet again, be sure to undergo the process of gradual approach. Everyone is changing, you and he needs time to adjust to each other changes.

"Try to see it as a new relationship, rather than continue a long relationship," said Bethany Marshall, Ph.D., as quoted from Cosmopolitan.com.

Maybe you want to quickly be in a comfortable relationship phase. But do not get time alone with him you can not stop asking yourself, "Why are you currently back with him?"

Be honest with yourself. If when you are with him constantly saying, "We need to talk." The sign, there is still a big doubt and he can not convince you. Do not get too close just to get rid of loneliness.

Complete the past
You and he certainly has a fundamental reason why the first can be separated. It is important to discuss the cause before re-committed to a love affair.

This is so you and he did not make the same mistake. Discuss clearly and thoroughly the cause of the failure of relationships past and find a solution.

Open a new sheet
Breakup may make you become more powerful and mature. "Every time we break up with someone, we learn how to have our own lives," said Marshall.

So, despite all efforts to heal the heartache after a breakup, such as skydiving, traveling or going out with someone else, make you have a new perspective of looking at something. This is according to Marshall is very good in terms of starting a new relationship, although to someone from the past.

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Watch a movie with a fight at the Joint

Spend the night in front of the television and watch movies with your spouse can ruin your relationship. Do not be surprised! All of these types of films based on the inequality that favored men and women.

A study recently conducted by Direct Line stated that women are more interested in the film a happy ending. While men are more inclined to like movies with sex scenes in it. This has been demonstrated through a survey of 2,000 adults.

"This study shows that the film can perfectly combine thoughts and emotions," says psychologist Professor Geoffrey Beattie TV when analyzing the results of the study, quoted by Female First.

According to him, the film is very important for humans because the film provides a narrative and the meaning of an experience, whether similar or different from your experience. Not infrequently, you are also often affected at the narrative structure of film you watch to explain the parts of your life.

"The film takes us into the emotional journey and allow us to feel the various emotions either positive or negative. When we're finished watching, we often feel the level of psychological satisfaction," he added.

In this study, more than half of male respondents felt that the scenes in action films is a scene that must be possessed of a good film. While women prefer a happy ending rather than the scene of explosions and violence.

"Our research shows that people really know what they like, especially what they do not like," said Matt Owen, spokesman for Direct Line.

If you are unable to distinguish what happens in a film which is actually a fictional story written by the author's real life, it is not likely your life will be affected by such fictional storyline. And, could it ruin your real life.

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