Five Signs Love Still childish

Every relationship must be confronted with a choice, towards a more serious relationship or just have fun. Some couples just need a short time to achieve the commitments, while others need time for years.

For couples who feel comfortable with each other, said the commitment will soon appear. But often, lovers did not also show its seriousness. You do not have to waste precious time with someone who is not ready.

If you want a more stable relationship than a relationship 'but intimate friend' or a date, time to assess the lover. Could be, he's still want to have fun and tend to be childish.

Here are some signs of male juvenile, as quoted from Yourtango:

1. No vision
In adulthood, it tends not know what he wants. For example, he enrolled but kept changing because it was unsuitable, so spend a long time.

This means, he is not confident in his desire. A man who is not sure of himself and what his purpose is not ready to commit long term.

2. He partied like ABG
Partying does not matter, as long as he also knows to control themselves while saving money. But in fact, his behavior reminds you of a teenager spending money just for the novelty.

Men who want to feel young still are people who tend to avoid becoming an adult. Behavior will cause problems when you are together.

3. He chose the unemployed
Finding a job is hard, but he never tried hard to get a job. He enjoys doing and rely on the help of parents to meet their needs.

If the lover has a healthy body, but chose unemployed, it shows laziness. If you remain married, be prepared to enter a full household quarrels.

4. Still dependent on parents
There is time, a grown man to live independently. However, he is tied with parents and is not ready to live alone. If he can not be independent for himself, of course it is difficult to do much for his partner later.

5. Too obsessed with idol
Admire and have the idol of a natural thing as long as not excessive. If the lover is too obsessed with an artist, to affect his life suggests he is a dreamer and has its own world.

He may be a romantic, but it will be difficult to adapt to the reality in the long run.

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Choose Love or Wealth?

What is your main consideration before deciding to marry the couple? Love or treasure? A recent survey Yourtango and ForbesWoman, 75 percent of women will not marry a jobless. As many as 65 percent of women also put off making a greater commitment if they are unemployed.

"Unemployment became an increasingly complex problem, especially for women who think about the financial and emotional stability of their prospective spouses," said Andrea Miller, founder and CEO of Yourtango.

A work can create tension in the relationship, and potentially damage the harmonious relationship. No wonder that before deciding to commit for life, some women want to ensure 'safe' with the ability of the couple make ends meet.

However, 91 percent of single women who participated the survey brave step into the level of marriage just because of love. This finding is quite ironic. How can women prefer love to get married, while on the other hand they will not marry unemployment.

"It is ironic that the woman was more heavily to choose love rather than money, but will not get married if they or peminangnya potentially unemployed," said Meghan Casserly, a spokesman for ForbesWoman.

Unemployment of a senior executive positions and mother of two children Oran claimed to have lost his job and affect the lives of her marriage. "I have a wonderful husband, but this incident destroy it. My husband and I fight a lot like I dropped everything," he said.

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Bad Effects Technology For Relationships

Technology can make us in touch with the outside world. But if excessive, is also likely to isolate us from the pair and put the relationship on the issue.

A recent study found, a wife who filed for divorce today is often called the husband's annoying behavior as a reason for divorce. As many as 15 percent feel their spouse more interested in games and the Internet than they are. Meanwhile, Facebook is used as one of five reasons for divorce.

Meanwhile, a survey conducted by online sites to find Divorce, the word 'phone' also led to one of eight divorce. No wonder, because the survey calls, someone using 80 minutes a day to make a short message, social networks and the Internet.

"I call it 'together but alone,'" says Douglas Weiss therapist relationship as published in the Daily Mail.

Currently, he said, mobile phones have become an important part in one's life. Hours and hours of time at home is spent at the computer and television. People are now also more in touch with friends on Facebook than couples.

"Technology disrupt the relationship and allows us to avoid one another. This leads to the destruction of intimacy."

Psychotherapist and relationship expert Paula Hall, from a nonprofit counseling agency Relate, said the technology should not be the cause of broken relationships. Even seemingly minor habits such as checking email and messages have a corrosive effect on relationships.

"People feel the need to connect with the outside world at any time can affect the quality time we spend with a partner," said Paula.

If there is a continuous, addicted to technology will make the couple may feel they are not a priority. In fact, research has shown that digital devices can be very addictive to make people wake up several times at night to check emails and text messages.

In a trial involving 360 people conducted at the University of Northampton, 30 percent of volunteers who are addicted to technology will have an impact on work or relationships.

Another study, at Tel Aviv University, concluded that Internet addiction is considered equivalent to the disturbance caused by gambling, sex addiction and kleptomania. Users who are addicted to technology become irritable when away from technology.

Relationship expert added, the solution, the couple should openly discuss these issues so as not to cause depression in one of the parties. If needed, couples can have marriage counseling with the experts.

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